Valentine’s Day gifts can be tricky when it comes to gifting your S.O. because while it’s still considered a “Hallmark Holiday,” there’s still an unspoken expectation that some degree of sentimentality should be taken into account. Dr. Gary Chapman’s famed book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts has long been touted as a relationship bible of sorts, and is predicated on the author’s theory that each person expresses and perceives love and affection in romantic relationships with one of five love languages—words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch.
Of course, the book’s intention is to help couples improve their communication styles and habits with their partner—not function as an unofficial gift guide for couples—but the iconic relationship book can also be used off-label to help guide you to a better gift for your partner too—yes, even if their prescribed love language isn’t receiving gifts. Even if you haven’t read the seminal book. yet, you can still glean some thoughtful insights to help you find a more meaningful gift for your Valentine based on the language they most closely identify with (if you or they don’t already know, you can take the official love language quiz here to find out.)